Dating While Married

First, of all let’s make this clear I’m strictly talking about dating the spouse you are married to..😂..anything outside of that is surely your choice..just not mine..😕..so, how can we date while married..how do we date our spouse..I mean we live in the same house..we talk about the same things ..our lives are already connected on many levels..why is it important to date as well..

The preconceived idea..especially if you have been married for a long time is that..things get routine and boring..or even the idea how can one person satisfy you for your entire life..well, it’s possible..I mean it was only designed since the beginning of time🙄..but, growth, maturity, communication, forgiveness and understanding are just a couple of the things that allow a marriage to flourish rather fizzle..

So many times outside relationships are sought after when it could been handled at home..but, a failure to connect on a subject or subjects..lends one to think..maybe someone else can give me what I need or want..how important to stay relevant with our spouse is the question..

Do we feel we already know all there is to know about them..because we don’t..do we feel they can never change..because they can..or do we feel it’s no longer worth the effort..because it is..think back to a time when you first started dating your spouse..

Was excitment there..anticipation..to just be in their presence..we made sure to put our best foot forward..we dressed the part..spoke the part..and even smelled the part 😂 but, then life happens..kids, bills, jobs,hobbies..etc..and we can become more and more lackadaisical if we’re not careful..where we no longer put in the effort into impressing who should be the most important person in our lives..

If married it should be one of our goals to ensure that we support each other in such a way that our spouse is reassured that if no one else on the face of this earth has their back..they know we do..without a doubt..and dating continuously..aids in that bond..

Allowing ourselves to talk and laugh..share new and exciting things..maybe maintaining some of the first date traditions..I know personally me and my husband still go to the movies quite frequently..why because that’s how we started out dating..we have always been movie lovers and it has been incorporated into our marriage for the last 26 years and always will be..

It’s just something about getting dressed to go out with him..to see something we’ve agreed upon..getting our usual..nachos and cheese (jalapenos on the side..I’ve spiced it up lately..see growth 😂) peanut M&M’s, large drink and milk duds..just about every time we go..which is at least once a week..sitting hearing the surround sounds..discussing the previews making plans for upcoming dates..excited about what we are about to see..in this dark room filled with strangers..but, no one else is in the world at that moment but, us two..

We talk as if we’re still trying to get to know one another..I search my mind for questions I don’t think I’ve asked him yet..and we rehash some old conversations..and to this I’m still learning about him..and that excites me..because people change..life has a way of doing that..just think your not the same person that they married either..we all are still learning ourselves..why not allow them to be a part of that..

We encourage you..make plans and see them through..whatever that may include is based on what you and your spouse agree upon and enjoy..but, do something..life is short and you have an opportunity to savor it with a soul who said “I do” to you.. Honor that..